Dear E. Jean: My future daughter-in-law isa wonderful young woman who has brought happiness into my son’s life. She’s warm, genuine, and fun; has a great career; and is driven and organized. Being with a woman who is strong and decisive seems to suit my son. He’s equally charming and kind, but more low-key, less
Dear E. Jean: I don’t watch porn, so I don’t know what’s considered “normal.” My partner is a cartoonist, and a sweet and gentle man. I found out he watches videos known as “facial abuse,” where women actually vomit during oral sex. I haven’t recovered from the shock. He’s promised to stop consuming the violent
Dear E. Jean: My boyfriend has a beautiful studio apartment in Manhattan. When we first started dating, his cousin moved to New York and was trying to get on his feet. While looking for an apartment, he crashed at my boyfriend’s. I totally understand the struggle. It’s New York! But now it’s seven months later,
Dear E. Jean: It’s 2:30 a.m. I’m packing and moving out of my boyfriend’s house. Here’s what happened: I found a strange e-mail on his computer from a woman about “meeting up.” So I googled her funny-sounding name. I thought it was a hair salon or something. It was a prostitute at an escort service.
Dear E. Jean: I can’t even be in the same room with my girlfriend without getting an erection. These past two years with her have been the best of my life. She’s tall, beautiful (on a scale of one to 10, she’s a 12, on a bad day), experienced, intelligent, and wealthy; she drives a
Dear E. Jean: I’m a teacher, unmotivated, unhappy, and lost in a sea of standardized tests. I can’t help dreaming of a new career involving my creativity and passion! But, at 30, am I too old to start over? E. Jean: Seventy is the best age for starting over (tough old eggs have nothing to
Dear E. Jean: An awful couple didn’t show up at our wedding. The guy is my husband’s best friend, and they were to be our witnesses. They were the only people invited. Now they’re coming to town, and my husband wants me to join him when he visits. I can’t stand them! What’s the proper
Dear E. Jean: I have a team of senior-level engineers, all men, who work for me. In the past few months, one of them has written three short emails to me proclaiming his affection. I ignored them. Then, while he was away on business, he sent me a two-page handwritten letter about his longing for
‘Tis the season of full fireplaces, burning candles, cashmere blankets, and peak coziness. What is peak coziness, you ask? Peak Coziness™ is a state of being made possible only when the temperatures drop. It’s drinking the perfect cup of hot chocolate on a rainy day. It’s reading a good book under a warm blanket. It’s
Dear E. Jean: Last year I met an adorable fellow at a bar. One thing led to another, and we ended up going home together that night. We saw each other off and on for several weeks, then he dumped me, saying I was too young for him. I’m 24. He’s 31. Six months later,
Dear E. Jean: I’m a happily married thirtysomething woman with a very satisfying sex life. However, I want to try sex with a woman. Not a specific woman—in fact, better for it to be completely anonymous, as I don’t want a relationship or any kind of ongoing “thing.” I just want to try it out.
Dear E. Jean: Help! I don’t want my guy seeing, admiring, or being turned on by other naked women! Do I have to accept that my fiancé will attend a bachelor party? E. Jean: Yes. Because if you tell him no, he’ll just lie and go anyway. But honestly, I’m sick of women feeling like
Nico Tortorella wants you to have more orgasms. They want everyone to have more orgasms. They want us to have orgasms and to talk more about them…to talk about them over breakfast even. “I think that we all have the right to sexual pleasure, right?” they tell me early one morning, before I’ve even had
When it comes to gift giving, there’s a whole spectrum of options: from the item someone specifically requested (“hiya, here’s a direct link JIC!”) to the super general, it-could-be-for-anyone present that comes with an impersonal whiff too strong to ignore. For the gifters who haven’t been told exactly what someone wants, it’s usually wise to
Zoë Buckman would like to talk about sex. Specifically, she would like to talk about everything to do with women and sex, from pure pleasure to systemized violence. And she wants to do it in three shades of pink. “My art should have a lightness and sweetness,” says the artist, who has the East London
An email: Please join me in celebrating my 30th birthday with dinner and drinks at… this expensive-ass, four-dollar-sign tapas restaurant. Carbon-copied are fifteen of the sender’s closest friends. Or, worse, they’re BCC’ed, like some kind of murder mystery dinner party. A Facebook invite: The one friend who still uses it is annoyed that you—who can’t
Getty Imagestihomir_todorov Whether it’s due to a last-minute invitation or a bit of procrastination doesn’t matter: You’re on the way to the party and you need a gift, now. Celebrating the host or guest of honor with something thoughtful is nice (and you’ll need something if there’s a White Elephant situation on the horizon). The
Dear E. Jean: My boyfriend and I have our struggles. But with him, arguments and fights just emphasize how 100 percent sure I am that this is the man for me. Which is why I’m so dissatisfied with our sex life. Honestly, I don’t even remember the last time either of us finished during sex.
Since I was a kid, I have not been able to keep things to myself. My nickname growing up was Allison “Spill The Beans” Raskin. I have made a career out of oversharing on the internet. If you share a secret with me I am going to have to then share it with at least
It started with meditation. Gina Gutierrez was listening to Headspace, the guided meditation and mindfulness app, when she realized something. Her and her girl friends, including her now-business partner Faye Keegan, were spending a lot of time talking about sexuality and how so few of them had reliable sources for erotic content that felt made
The social networking site Tumblr has gone through many incarnations. It was originally a hip blogging site beloved by New York media types; later, it got a reputation for being a hotbed of feminism and social justice activism, particularly beloved by young queer women and other marginalized communities. (The phrase “SJW” typically had the word
Since all women should feel empowered and confident when asking for a raise, we’re partnering with Secret—a brand that’s been supporting women and their strength since 1956—to deliver the below tips on what you need to know before talking to your boss. We can all agree that feeling confident enough to ask for a raise
This holiday season, find a gift for your favorite guy that no one else has. Personalizing something makes it extra special—and proves that you’ve actually planned ahead this year. Whether you’re shopping for a husband, boyfriend, brother, or dad, these one-of-a-kind finds are pieces they’ll want to show off. Keep reading to see customized kicks,
As a child, I observed motherhood as a constant hustle performed by my mother and the single mothers around her. “Rise and grind” was my mother personified. Fortunately, quality time with my mom was always a priority whether it was a Saturday night movie or a nail appointment. But I also saw my mother make